Male Movie Characters Women Would Love to Date (And Men Could Learn From)

April 23, 2013 By

Straight outta PourHabit’s headquarters, courtesy of our editor Shirley P:

Over the years, Hollywood has helped shape (and I admit, distort) the female mind about the ideal guy. There was always the Disney guy to begin with. I would admit some of them are way too fancy and too perfect for the regular dude to achieve. But still, to give due credit to Hollywood, there are some male characters in movies that are quite the stunner and the charmer or at least possess some character traits that every men could learn from.

Here’s PourHabit’s list of male movie characters that women would love to date, and men could learn from:

  • Noah Calhoun (Ryan Gosling/The Notebook)

Ahh but of course! Who wouldn’t fall in love with the young Ryan Gosling? And who wouldn’t fall in love with the young man who pursued the woman he loved despite their social statuses being worlds apart?

Fall-in-Love Factor: We girls have this thing for impossible love affairs, a la Romeo and Juliet, and absolutely love men who are willing to fight for that love no matter what. Aww Noah!

  • Henry Roth (Adam Sandler/50 First Dates)

If the woman you are dating forgets about you after 24 hours, would you throw in the towel or would you do as Henry did to ‘Forgetful Lucy’?

Fall-in-Love-Factor: All that effort of making her fall in love with him over and over and over again – on a daily basis – is enough to make us girls love him. Oh it helped that he has such a sense of humor. Who wouldn’t love a funny guy anyway? Now gents, you don’t have to be all grand in gesture; the smallest effort goes a long, long way. Trust me.

  • Jack Dawson (Leonardo di Caprio/Titanic)

No male-loving creature resisted falling in love with Leonardo di Caprio’s big screen break as Jack Dawson in Titanic. Admit it: he was one of the reasons why it is still the top grossing Hollywood film of all time (apart from you, men, enjoying Kate Winslet’s nakedness and that steamy love scene). Jack was carefree, young, happy, and very romantic and would do everything for love. Oh and it helped how wonderfully he transformed from regular guy to jaw dropper when he donned that tux. I’m not surprised Rose fell in love with doe-eyed Jack too soon. Seriously, I fell for him in the first minute of the movie, and I was 8 at the time. Can’t blame Rose, can I?

Fall-in-Love Factor: Jack’s incredibly contagious happiness and carefree attitude won girls over. He was also bouncing with so much life it was hard not to smile and have fun with him around. Give that girl the same energy and she’ll love your company.

  • Jacob Palmer (Ryan Gosling – again, I know/Crazy, Stupid Love)

Except for being a total womanizer (and a true master of seduction techniques), Jacob was the definition of the classy man. He carried himself well, he was as confident as he looks, and he knows how to dress up and talk to ladies.

Fall-in-Love Factor: Men who are confident are always sexy. Turn off, though, if you bedded different women every night.

  • Will Shakespeare (Joseph Fiennes, Shakespeare in Love)

By now you know I really have a thing for against-all-odds type of romance. But seriously, how can you resist the young William Shakespeare if he’s written sonnet after sonnet after sonnet in your honor? And he went as far as dressing up like your chambermaid and climbed your walls just to see you?

Fall-in-Love Factor: Poetry, like chivalry, is never dead. And all that effort, again, will win girls over.

The other men who made my list included James Bond (define ‘debonair’ and you get Bond, James Bond), Cal Weaver (Steve Carrell, Crazy Stupid Love), and Zorro (Antonio Banderas, The Mask of Zorro). How about you guys? Who’s your role model male movie character (you know, those who seem to master the art of picking up girls with ease) and why?

Out,

Shirley P. (Standing in for Sebastian M.) @ PourHabit

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PourHabit’s Pick: Open Relationship 101

May 14, 2013 By

Holler, buddies! What have you been up to? Got a call from a friend asking me to write anything about open relationships. He’s dating a single mom who doesn’t want to be too attached. This one’s for you, pal!

From “No Strings Attached” to “Friends with Benefits” to just about every Hollywood TV series, there will always be that one couple who are just as much a couple in every possible aspect except commitment. Open relationships are everywhere even when it’s getting quite a mixed review from different kind of people. One thing is for sure though: it’s not for everyone.

If you’re the jealous, clingy, sweet, loyal, cuddling type then open relationships are definitely NOT for you. This kind of relationship requires a lot of openness in understanding that the slightest discomfort in the thought of sharing your partner with someone else or having sex with someone else other than your partner, then this is totally not for you.

If you think this is for you, then go ahead and pickup the women you fancy. By the way, this is my favorite seduction technique. You might find it helpful.

If it is, no one can tell you what and what not to do – whatever floats your boat is what I say. But if you’re new to this kind of thing, then take some of these tips to guide you in the unpopular world of open relationships:

Open relationships require openness between the couple.

Open relationships require openness between the couple.

  • Be safe. I can never tell you too much about the importance of staying safe. Sexually transmitted diseases can be avoided and you should – by all means – do everything you can in order to avoid them even if you’re in an open relationship. The last thing you need is getting STDs from one of the people you are getting involved with. Having sex can only be so much fun until you test positive for herpes or crabs or worse, HIV.
  • Leave your love at the door. No, this type of relationship isn’t about love and falling in love and anything relative to it. If anything, it’s an undeniable chemistry, compatibility, attraction, and maybe even lust. Love causes you to be protective and jealous and selfish and that’s altogether not part of the bargains of open relationships. This should make this thing impossible to achieve.
  • Do not be jealous. The whole point of open relationships is having someone to come back to like a partner, but still keep the freedom to see, go out and sleep with other like-minded individuals. So if you cannot stand sharing your girl with another guy, this kind of relationship will only break your heart.
  • Be ready for anything. No commitments mean things can be over even before you know it, even before you want it to. This is where you should hold on to your attachment rather more strongly. You cannot expect things to simply stay the same for a long period of time and so you would have to be ready for any change.
  • Be open with your “partner” about anything that could affect your open relationship. This includes laying down rules on seeing other people, how often you see each other, what you tell people when you’re seen outside together, and similar situations. Oh, yes, that includes who you can and can’t see, as well as when and how you guys are going to break things off.

Hollywood made this unconventional relationship look way too easy and too sweet. I’d say think twice, thrice or even more times before getting yourself involved in this complicated type of relationship. There are many resources out there to find out whether open relationships really work or not.

If you want me to write about a topic, please send me an email. I’ll do my best to come up with a good article.

- Steven

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She Wears the Pants: Dating a Domineering Woman

May 10, 2013 By

There are different kinds of women, as there are of men. There are some who are quiet and require you to understand them through body language.

Then there’s the alpha female.

Some women are dominant mainly because they were born that way, and fed through iron bottles growing up. Others are forced by circumstances, others, because their careers require them to be. The Rosie Riveters of the war era have transformed into the glamorous Anna Wintour’s of the modern day, where even the daintiest of dresses could not hide their feistiness within. And they are not afraid to dominate anywhere – yes, anywhere including relationships.

Dating a dominant woman can be a good thing and a bad thing. I know some guys who enjoy being passive, who find the ‘I want, I get’ attitude of their women and it heavily turns them on especially in bed. Most men, though, feel emasculated with the reversal of roles in the relationship.

What is a dominant woman?

strongwoman

She knows what she wants and she gets it even when she has to make you. She has the power to make you believe that her way is the right and only way and she doesn’t budge on her principles. In fact, she can make you do what she wants you to do by persuasion or otherwise. She takes control, yes, even in bed. And you either have to be really, really special or really, really adorable to make her change her ways towards you. But that is less than likely. I know someone who dominated her men like a female mantis but was a total softy around her family and friends.

Dating a dominant woman can either be both frustrating and rewarding, and it all depends on how you handle your dominatrix. If being submissive is not your thing, then by all means, the door is open. She isn’t one to follow you around crying and begging you to stay.

Tips for Dating a Dominant Woman

A dominant woman wants to get things her way most of the time. Dating a dominant woman doesn’t mean you can’t have a say on anything. Sometimes you just need some really good techniques on how to get a girl to fall in love with you – check out techniques at

http://octobermansequence.org/how-to-get-a-girl-to-fall-in-love-with-you/

When a woman is truly in love, she is willing to compromise. How do you date a woman who always knows what she wants and gets things her way? Here are some tips:

1. Make her laugh. The way to any tough woman’s heart is through her tickle bone. This will make her feel more comfortable towards you and she will break all her walls and barriers.
2. Prove her wrong. Sometimes you just have to be a toughie towards your girl. It’s not about competing with your girl, it’s about proving your point convincingly.
3. Prove that she can trust you. More often than not, domineering girls have trust issues on men (or the world in general). They feel like they have to protect themselves from you and they can only trust you when you’re under their control. Prove your trustworthiness.
4. Take initiative sometimes. Whether it’s in bed or in doing the groceries or going on a movie date, it helps to take initiative. Don’t make your suggestion sound like you’re asking for her permission. Instead of saying ‘can we watch a movie tonight?’ or ‘can we have sex tonight?’, try being more imposing of your point. Say, ‘Let’s go to the movies tonight’ or ‘I’m thinking of something sexy to do tonight’. That gives your proposition more power, more grit.

Sometimes, dominance could be a sign of insecurity. Or it could be that she’s just waiting for that extraordinary guy to dominate her. And that guy could be you!

-S.K.

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Sebastian’s Method On How To Decode A Girl’s Body Language

May 2, 2013 By

Men have always found girls very complicated. To some, girls are harder to decipher than an ancient language. Men always complain about the difficulty of understanding what a girl actually means because a single word or sentence almost always has a web of meanings underneath it. We at PourHabit.com completely understands this! :)

But really, what guys are missing out on is understanding that everything we say comes with a twitch, a movement of the eyes, or a placement of the hands are telltale signs of what a girl truly means. This is especially useful when you are dating a single mom.

Reading Her Non-Verbal Cues

On a date, especially, girls never put themselves outwards most of the time. We put reservations on ourselves, not fully speaking out about how we feel about our dates and what mood we are in, in general. This, I found out lately, drives men crazy. This ambiguity is but torture to men who want things placed definitely, clearly, and can’t take a little vagueness.

Would you know what it means if the lady gestures like this? Find out the answer at SeductionFAQ.com/blog

Would you know what it means if the lady gestures like this? Find out the answer at SeductionFAQ.com/blog

And so, in aid of healthy and less complicated dating, I shall let you into the not-too-secret world of the female body language. This should help you, poor men, identify a girl’s true feelings and thoughts on a date. Here’s my guide to decoding a girl’s body language at a dinner date (many of these tips are taken from SonicSeduction.net where I get my fill of seduction advice for men on a daily basis) -

Sebastian’s 7-Point Method On How To Decode A Girl’s Body Language

  1. Hands on her lap or on herself and body is rigid – neither leaning towards you nor away from you. She does not trust you and she’s not comfortable being with you. She’s not putting her hands out there for fear that you might touch her. Her body is away from the table and away from you because she doesn’t want to get close. She’s so unsure around you.
  2. Her body is leaned towards you and her shoulders are low. She’s enjoying your company. Almost always, in this scenario she is smiling and is truly into the conversation.
  3. Her eyes are scanning the crowd, her hands are touching her hair or her button or anything within reach. She’s not comfortable and she’s not enjoying herself. You do not have her full attention and her mind wishes she be anywhere else but stuck in that dinner table with you.
  4. She throws her head in a squeal-ish laughter. She’s enjoying the conversation and she is somehow trying to impress you by being extra attentive.
  5. She keeps her hand on the table, right at your reach. She’s reaching out to you and inviting you to get closer. She may even be inviting you to touch her.
  6. Her hands are folded neatly on the table, but her body is straight up and not leaning towards the table. She’s being nice with you but she’s not totally enjoying your company. This is almost always coupled with short fake-ish laughter, very short sentences and somewhere along the way, some awkward silence.
  7. She rests her head on her wrist, her head leaned to one side. She is interested and is listening to you. But she’s also eyeing you and secretly judging you in her brain.

The secret to understanding women is understanding all of her – what she says, what she doesn’t say, what she does and doesn’t do and how she looks at you. That last bit really says a lot.

Yours,

S.K

PS: I received a lot of emails regarding my last post on Hollywood men. Please give me some time to craft a reply. :)

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Dating a Single Mom: Pros, Cons, Do’s and Don’ts

May 1, 2013 By

Welcome to my blog! It’s Sebastian here. Last week, my friend and colleague Shirley was kind enough to fill in– here’s her article about her all-time Hollywood crushes. Now, we’re on to the real things. Here’s a thought– what if one day you meet the girl that you’ve been dreaming about for all of your single life? She’s every inch how you hoped she would look like and be like. And as an added bonus, she likes you back. You are great together and you’ve never been this happy.

So, your methods on how to pick up girls totally worked– she’s perfect for you and you could have been perfect together except for this one big undeniable, unchangeable fact: she has a kid.

Mother

How does dating a single mom differ from dating a single woman? How different would the treatment and the romance be like when she got kids? How different should your treatment towards her be?

I’ve seen a lot of my friends transform into wholly different people when they become moms, and even more so when their relationships with their ‘baby daddies’ did not work out.

So, Single Moms– How Do “They” Work?

Even when they’re still technically single, they don’t consider themselves single. No more nights out, no more shopping for herself, and boys – well, boys have been moved to the bottom of her priorities. In the words of a really good friend of mine, ‘If it comes, I’d be happy. If it doesn’t, I don’t have anything to ask for ‘coz I have my child’.

Her life is not about her anymore; it’s about her and her child. And if you’re dating a single mom, you would have to understand how different she is in priorities, in her relationship with men, and in how her child would take the presence of you – practically a stranger – getting into something personal with their mom.

  • Priorities, Time and Attention – no you don’t have advantage in any of these areas. Her child gets all her attention and you’re lucky if you come in close to second. You can’t expect to go out with her every day or even more so, expect her to stay over at your place. And yes, your chances at intimacy are very limited.
  • Level of Commitment – there is hardly any grey area in dating a single mom. They might date for the sake of dating and don’t expect you to commit. Or they may have been so fed up with all the follies of dating that they expect commitment to her and her child. You’d have to settle where you stand on this matter early on.
  • The Baby Daddy – He is going to be a problem at one point or another. He would either interfere using the child as an excuse or you may not help yourself but get jealous of him. And he’s an indispensable part of her life. And of course, there’s always the possibility of them getting back together!
  • The Child – her kid’s opinion on you will always affect her own opinion of you. And yes, the child will always stand between you two somehow.

Sebastian’s Closing Thoughts..

Dating a single mom means dating with her child and all of her priorities and duties and responsibilities as a mom. Motherhood is not a job that she can quit whenever it’s inconvenient for her or her dating life. If you are not ready to take on these challenges, you better quit before you commit.

Do you have your own story about dating single moms? Email me at sebastian@pourhabit.com!

I’m out,

S.K.

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